CoW was a failure altogether and to look at it in a positive light would be a stupid thing to do. There was too much hype on the forums and not enough action in game. You have too many noob players, dont get me wrong, every alliance should have a few to teach and grow with so the alliance has new blood. But when it comes down to it, having immature leadership that doesnt have the right attitude or commitment and experience like you and ladasha. thats the cause of the failure.
You say you didnt lead them into a hole, ofc you did, your the alliance leader. Who else is supposed to lead the alliance if not its leader?
Im sorry to be so blunt but im not the type to sugar coat anything.