hi mad! .....anyway, yeah, i was running a little group in another little game, and one of the guys was an older man and his wife. he'd been sick for some time and finally cashed in his chips. this was back when i was an internet dj, so we had a service for him on air.
sympathy man, we're all human beings, so compassion and understanding ought to be up front when we're talking anything real life. it's better to do a bro hug, than tell someone the people who die are "in a better place", it feels like a gut check, and makes them feel even worse.
i'm nobody special, it took me awhile to get some social skills under my belt too, i just try to pass on what i learn, to those who will listen.